Roro Bueno is a Spanish influencer who has gone very viral for basically making preparations from scratch for her boyfriend. Her networking strategy is to show how she cooks with dedication and from scratch what her boyfriend wants. As quickly as she grew in networks, her popularity grew among men who pointed out to her what “they really want”. And not only that. They are under the impression that feminists are “angry” at their existence.
https://twitter.com/capTercio/status/1816738766662349137
In an interview, Roro refers to the fact that in addition to being a feminist, everything she does is for her, because of the care and love she has for her boyfriend. Who simply enjoys slow processes and crafts. There is no denying that showing, with that detail, the way in which he speaks and presents himself or dresses while making cooking recipes for a man is a very effective strategy on networks dispensed with by the American tradwife movement.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAYzFQowTt4
Social networks and men have been responsible for presenting Roro as the antithesis and antagonist of ALL feminists. But how true is it that we feminists Roro and her content annoy us, believe that she is a submissive woman and represents subjugation?
Let's start by talking about tradwifes as a movement that represents a response to the supposed modern women's liberation and seeks to return to traditional values such as women in the home and serving their husbands. They exist, they are organized and they have a clear political line. Our struggle is not about pointing out the behavior and decisions of other women, but about understanding where they come from: in that sense, the problem will never be if you decide to dissect yourself to household chores or if you cook for your husband, as long as you do it because you want to.
Obviously we can reflect on why we are taking up and appropriating gender roles that many women managed to overcome, but RoRo herself positioned herself from a different perspective.
She enjoys doing what she does, she does it out of love, care and enjoyment of the process, and do we have a problem with that? No. It seems that they are trying to create for us (oddly enough) a false competition between women. There isn't as much collective dispute and opposition with RoRo, least of all because men put what they really want.
Those who are intimidated and uncomfortable by women's independence, success and autonomy are men. It bothers them that some of us don't consider fulfilling their sexist fantasies in the relationship.
It's the same argument that took place in Sex and the City when Charlotte decided to quit her job to dedicate herself to her house and that Miranda points out to her making her understand that it wasn't her decision, it was giving in to the wishes of a man when Charlotte really wanted that.
And that's the point, as feminists we never seek a unified ideal of women. We don't pretend that we all have the same life plan, since we love that all the decisions we make are under a cloak of opportunities, based on autonomy and full enjoyment of rights.
We don't hate women who decide to be housewives, nuns or those who decided to get married and become mothers from a young age, those anthogonisms are invented by you.
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